I'm Brittnie. I have 4 beautiful children. I had a daughter in 2011 and her name is Reese. She only lived a few short hours before passing away. We were heartbroken, but had faith and continued to have a family. I have a daughter (A)-3 yrs old, son (J)-2 yrs old, and son (P)-8 months old. I feel out of control more then I ever feel in control. I am LDS and live in Ogden Utah. I changed up my blog to help center all my weekly "adventures". My days are pretty consistent with not much glam or excitement. I am a stay at home mom and have chosen to do this. I think that motherhood is difficult no matter what "working" circumstance anyone has chosen. Each family has different needs and I get really tired of the comparison of working outside of the home verses working inside the home. I want everyone to just band together and cheer each other on. Anyhow, I do work very part time at a dental office and it works perfect for me. I get a few hours a week to get out of my regular routine and feel human. I like feeling like I have another role besides, mom. I like being able to keep up on some of my skills and to have adult conversation as well. I have benefited from having this opportunity in my life.
I like to try and get out of the house daily. It helps break up my day and gives me another chance for adult conversation. Yesterday I went to Smiths. It can be really difficult to take all 3 kids to the store. My kids like Smiths because they have the carts that look like cars and they have the mini shopping carts as well. It was raining, so all the car carts were wet. Of course my kids were mad because that's what they want. I found a little cart for my daughter and then put the two boys in a regular cart and rushed to the free fruit they can eat to get them distracted from the no car cart issue. We got situated and all we needed to get was cutie oranges. My daughter demanded to get the oranges herself and put them in her cart. She really is a great helper and very determined. Since things were going so well, I decided to look around a little bit. I tried to skip the toy isle, but it wasn't going to happen. My two oldest wanted everything they saw. Sometimes it gets old saying no, not today. So I let them pick out a cheap toy, which helps distract them more so I can keep looking for a little longer. Everything was going really well. Even at the self check out, my daughter scanned everything and put everything in bags and then in her cart. I was feeling really good. We conquered a store visit without any major issues. We walked to the van and I put the shopping cart to the front side on my van. I loaded my youngest in and my daughter was unloading the groceries into the seat. My 2 year old was still in the shopping cart and I could see him and he wasn't far from me. I see a woman come close to the shopping cart and then hear her shout "There is a baby in here!" I am staring right at her and as I am walking to her I told her that I was well aware that my son was in the cart. I told her that I have two other children that I am trying to load into the car. She then says she will just stay by my cart until I am done buckling in my kids. I was already done and pick up (J) and she says, I only have one, so I guess having 3 would be harder. She asked if she could take my cart and then left. I was irritated. I only have two arms. I can only load one child in at a time. My feelings of satisfaction of a great store visit, slowly turned into a negative one. I have been trying to look at the positive and think that she was just looking out for my son. I have a tendency to take things more personal then I should. Once I returned home, I called my mom and had to tell her the whole story. People are funny. I have been told that my hands are full numerous time. I even had someone tell me once as I was trying to shove my triple stroller through the door that someone should help me. Ummm ya....maybe you could open that door? I had a woman tell me once that my daughter wasn't dressed warm enough. I had another woman tell me that my son really should have socks on. Well lady, sometimes your baby pulls them off. Did you know that? And sometimes, my 3 year old refuses to wear shoes instead of flip flops in the rain. I can only pick so many battles, and well I guess I don't pick the battles that others would. I told my mom, I think that mom's need to hear that they are doing a good job. So, that's just what I did today. I was at the SeaQuest Aquarium today and I saw a woman with her son who was about 4 yrs and two twin girls about 9 months. The girls were in carriers, on on her chest and the other on her back. I walked right up to her and said you are doing such a great job to bring your son here and your twin girls. I know it can't be easy, but you are awesome! Now maybe she thinks I'm a wacka doodle. But I do think it was great that she ventured out and I was going to tell her. I wanted her to leave feeling like she conquered her outing. So....next time you see a mom with all her kids, give her a little boost. Tell her that her how impressed you are that her kids are so well behaved (even if it's just for that moment), open a door for her, take her shopping cart back for her, just smile at her (sometimes I get the look up and down and then stare), kindness goes a long way and can really help make someones day. Ha I rhymed. Until next time.
Brittnie
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